Talking to children about saying goodbye to a beloved pet can feel overwhelming, but honesty wrapped in kindness is often the most comforting approach.
Here are some gentle ways to help them understand:
Use simple, clear language
Avoid phrases like “put to sleep,” which can confuse young children. Instead, explain that the vet helped their pet die peacefully because their body was very sick or very old and couldn’t get better.
Reassure them it wasn’t their fault
Kids often internalise blame. Let them know that nothing they did (or didn’t do) caused this. Their pet wasn’t able to heal and this was a way to prevent further pain.
Let them feel what they feel
Children grieve differently. Some may cry, others may ask questions and some may seem unbothered at first. All responses are normal. Encourage them to express their feelings freely.
Share memories and celebrate the love
Creating a drawing, writing a letter to their pet, lighting a candle or choosing a favourite photo can help children honour the bond in a healthy, healing way.
Emphasise the love that lasts
Explain that while their pet isn’t alive anymore, the love, the memories and the happiness they shared will always stay with them.
Euthanasia is a tender topic, but with warmth, honesty and reassurance, children can navigate this loss feeling supported, safe and understood. 
